P – Priya, The People-Pleaser

Priya can’t say no.

Not to a plan, not to a favor, not even to a “Can I call you real quick?” that turns into a 2-hour emotional monologue.

She’ll smile and say, “Of course!”

Even when her inner voice is whispering, “You’re tired. You’re done. You need a nap and a chocolate bar.”

One Saturday, Priya had committed to:

  • A baby shower

  • A birthday brunch

  • Helping a friend move

AND

  • Checking in on me after my check-up

Me: “Priya, why are you doing all of this in one day?”

Priya: “Everyone just needed me! And I didn’t want to let anyone down.”

Later that evening, I called her.

Me: “Where are you?”

Priya (flat on her bed): “Staring at the ceiling, wrapped in guilt and bubble wrap. I skipped everything because I couldn’t reach everywhere.”

She felt bad for saying yes. Then felt worse for not showing up.

Classic Priya.

The Priyas of the world are kind to a fault.

They want everyone to be happy—even if it’s at their own expense.

But they also teach us that saying yes isn’t always kind… especially when it means saying no to yourself.

Sometimes, the most loving thing you can say is, “I wish I could, but I can’t.”

Do you know a Priya?

Or are you the one who says yes to things, then wonders why your Sunday feels like a group project?

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